Reasons We Get Stuck and How to Change


I came across a podcast this week that literally stopped me in my tracks. It was an interview with Dr. Joe Dispenza, who presents himself as a mind-body connection expert. You have GOT to listen to this guy because I cannot do his work justice in this quick post. He’s on the podcast circuit pretty heavily right now. I am in a state of indecision often and so his explanation of our thoughts and our inability to get past the program of our mind due to past ingrained behaviors is so relevant for me at this time in my life, and maybe for you.

In one of my previous posts I talked about how I lost weight and how it wasn’t through traditional calories in calories out, but actually was sparked by being kinder to myself, having more positive self-talk, and giving myself a break. I attributed it to breaking old patterns of turning to food for comfort, sabotaging efforts to make a change by negative self-talk, and finally changing the intention behind my habits to health rather than getting skinnier thighs.

Dr. Dispenza travels around the world giving speeches on the mind’s ability to heal the body. He is well-versed in neuroscience, memory formation and cellular biology.

This is what he says about our ingrained behaviors: “Psychologists tell us that by the time we’re in our mid-30s, our identity or personality will be completely formed. This means that for those of us over 35, we have memorized a select set of behaviors, attitudes, beliefs, emotional reactions, habits, skills, associative memories, conditioned responses, and perceptions that are now subconsciously programmed within us. Those programs are running us, because the body has become the mind. This means that we will think the same thoughts, feel the same feelings, react in identical ways, behave in the same manner, believe the same dogmas, and perceive reality the same ways. About 95 percent of who we are by midlife is a series of subconscious programs that have become automatic—driving a car, brushing our teeth, overeating when we’re stressed, worrying about our future, judging our friends, complaining about our lives, blaming our parents, not believing in ourselves, and insisting on being chronically unhappy, just to name a few.” 
― Joe Dispenza, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself: How to Lose Your Mind and Create a New One

Dr. Dispenza says “Same thoughts always lead to the same choices, same choices lead to the same behavior and the same behaviors lead to same experiences and the same experiences produce the same emotions and these emotions drive the very same thoughts.”

When I would start a diet, I would always start hearing the thoughts “you’re going to fail”, “it won’t work” or I would immediately start craving the very food I just swore off for a month. It was insanity. It’s also known as yo-yo dieting. Turning inward, accepting who and where you are right now is crucial to changing.

Also, when I would try to do better, I would make overarching, generalized goals like “eat better” or “be healthier.”

So then how do we change knowing all of this???

Dr. Dispenza suggests going deeper and becoming aware of the exact thoughts that have gotten you to where you are today. He suggests listening to your thoughts and actively working to not allow the sabotaging thoughts to continue playing in your mind like a broken record. Challenge those thoughts, and guard your mind by actively countering them with a positive thought.

“Most change starts with the simple process of something outside of us altering something inside of us. If you begin the inward journey and start to change your inner world of thoughts and feelings, it should create an improved state of well-being. If you keep repeating the process in meditation, then in time, epigenetic changes should begin to alter your outer presentation—and you become your own placebo.” 
― Joe Dispenza, You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter

Part of Dr. Dispenza’s solution is this: “To be happy with yourself in the present moment while maintaining a dream of your future is a grand recipe for manifestation. When you feel so whole that you no longer care whether “it” will happen, that’s when amazing things materialize before your eyes. I’ve learned that being whole is the perfect state of creation. I’ve seen this time and time again in witnessing true healings in people all over the world. They feel so complete that they no longer want, no longer feel lack, and no longer try to do it themselves. They let go, and to their amazement, something greater than they are responds—and they laugh at the simplicity of the process.” 
― Joe Dispenza, You Are the Placebo: Making Your Mind Matter

This all presupposes that you understand that your thoughts are not the truth. They are thoughts, and we have millions of contradictory, untruthful ones each and every day. Why do we sometimes choose to believe the negative ones and not the positive ones?

This helped me, hope it helps you! Happy Thanksgiving!

In health,